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Day after day I am bulled, verbally abused and called names but I have managed to keep my spirits up. I often wonder why would anyone put themselves out there only to be beaten down by the evils of cyber bullying. Well I will tell you why I continue to do what I do. Because I love it. I love helping other and I love going to bed at night knowing that I have literally dedicated a big part of my life to helping others. Even though it appears that my site and videos  are purely superficial beauty topics with an occasional splash of relationship advice I know I am helping someone out there.  You gotta remember that there are days when you are feeling down and there are days when you are feeling good. So like the old saying goes.. make lemonade out of those lemons!

 

1.When you are feeling sad, step back and imagine good and happy times. When you are able to emerge your emotions to that happy place your body will follow. Even a temporary state of happiness will bring you closer to the happier side.

2.  Surround yourself with positive people. Having a positive influence around you will truly help you feel that same attraction.  When you are around negativity it will also bring you down. If you are alone watch happy good movies that will bring up your spirits. Even if its 2 hours of smiles times it is 2 hours  less of sad times.  Also it helps to see that even in happy movies sad things happen. Its a part of life that we all learn to cope with. Take it in slowly and process as you can. You are only human so don’t expect you to be a super hero.

3.  Watch children and their actions. Have you ever seen children sad? It is a temporary state that quickly goes away. Children have mastered the art of happiness and innocence. Sometimes as adults we need to let go and just be free. It will help you live a lot longer

4.  Find hobbies and therapeutic activities.  I hear that exercise is one of the greatest ways to be a happier person. With modern technology and different work out methods you are bound to find something you love.  When you are working out your body releases natural happiness, warm fuzzy feelings inside. Also after the work out your body is usually too pooped to think about anything else. Then in addition to feeling good you look good! I personally am still trying to find my fave workout.

5) Focus on what you love and not being happy. After you do what you love the happiness comes naturally. My biggest paper in college was about finding happiness and I learned that only when you do the things you love is when you will find happiness. By focusing solely on being happy  you lose sight of what it takes to get you there.

Happiness, love and bows

xox

Elessa